【时代周刊 20130124】对孩子说谎？中美父母都一样。
【中文标题】对孩子说谎？中美父母都一样。
【原文标题】Parents in U.S. and China Both Lie to Their Kids, Study Says
【登载媒体】时代周刊
【原文作者】Kristene Quan
【原文链接】http://newsfeed.time.com/2013/01/24/parents-in-u-s-and-china-both-lie-to-their-kids-study-says/
中国和美国父母最常说的谎话是，如果孩子不听话就丢下他们不管。
《国际心理杂志》发表的最新一篇研究文章中提到，虎妈（译者注：指中国妈妈，源自蔡美儿的书《虎妈战歌》）和球妈（译者注：指美国妈妈）至少有一个共同点：他们都对孩子说谎。
根据BBC的报道，这两个国家的父母最常说的谎话是，如果孩子不听话就丢下他们不管。其它一些劝说性的谎话大多基于神话，比如匹诺曹的故事，如果你说谎，你的鼻子就会变长，或者说有个仙女在仔细观察着你的一举一动。
来自美国加利福尼亚大学、中国浙江师范大学和加拿大多伦多大学的研究人员重点关注心理学家所谓的“启发性谎言”，它的定义是“以影响别人行为方式为目的的谎言”。研究的内容基于对大约200个家庭的访谈。
研究显示，最常见的谎话——无论是美国家庭还是中国家庭——是父母假装把不听话的孩子丢下不管。研究人员说：“这句谎话之所以如此普及，或许是因为父母经常要面临违背孩子意愿离开某个地方时所遭遇的挑战。”
另外一个在两个国家都经常出现的谎话是“虚假承诺在未来不确定的时间给孩子买一个玩具”。
研究人员为谎话设置了不同的类别，包括“表现不佳的谎言”、“有关饮食的谎言”、“有关花钱的谎言”等等。有些父母说出的谎话令人颇为吃惊。例如在“有关去留问题的谎言”类别中，一位家长曾经说：“如果你不跟我走，就会有一个坏人来把你抓走。”
然而，据ScienceDaily网站提供的信息，美国和中国父母还会说很多谎话来强化正面行为，他们大多会使用“神话人物”来达成这个目的，比如牙仙。研究人员发现中国父母会比美国父母更多地使用启发性谎言，尤其是在行为举止和饮食方面。BBC的报道称：“研究显示，父母们大多可以接受自己说谎的行为，只要这些谎话能起到引导正面社会行为的目的。”
研究人员认为，父母的谎言非常重要，因为“这会影响到孩子的说谎行为，以及如何看待说谎的孩子。这两方面都被认为是道德观念形成的核心问题。”总之，他们的研究“提出了一个重要的问题——在什么情况下父母才有正当的理由说谎。”
原文：
The most popular lie among parents in the U.S. and China was threatening to leave a child alone unless they behaved.
At least there’s one thing Tiger Moms and soccer moms have in common: parents in both the U.S. and in China routinely lie to their kids, according to a new study published in the International Journal of Psychology.
Within both countries, the most frequent example of lying was parents threatening to leave their children alone in public unless they behaved, the BBC reported.
Other forms of persuasion are more fantasy-based, like the classic Pinocchio tale that if you lie to someone, your nose will grow longer — or that your Fairy Godmother is watching everything you do.
The study’s authors, from the University of California, San Diego in the U.S., Zhejian Normal University in China and the University of Toronto in Canada, focused on what psychologists refer to as “instrumental lying” — defined here as “lying to influence the behavior of others.”The study was based on interviews with about 200 families.
The lie most commonly used – popular with both families in the U.S. and China – was parents pretending to leave a child alone who refuses to follow a parent, according to the study.
“The pervasiveness of this lie may relate to the universality of the challenge parents face in trying to leave a place against their child’s wishes,” the researchers said.
Another popular lie the study’s authors found among parents in both countries was “a false promise to buy a requested toy at time indefinite time in the future.”
The researchers established different categories of untruths, which included:“Untrue statements related to misbehavior”; “untrue statements related to eating”; and “untrue statements related to spending money.”
Some of the lies recorded were startling; for instance, under “untrue statements related to leaving or staying,” one parent was recorded as saying: “If you don’t follow me, a kidnapper will come to kidnap you while I’m gone,” according to BBC News.
However, there were a number of lies American and Chinese parents used to enforce positive feelings with the use of “fantasy characters” like the Tooth Fairy, reported the science news website ScienceDaily.
The researchers found that instrumental lying was more common among parents in China than in the U.S., especially lies related to eating and misbehavior.
“The study found there was an acceptance of such lies among parents when they were used as a way of reinforcing desirable social behavior,” reported the BBC.
Parental lying is important, the researchers wrote, because “this practice may play a role in children’s lying behavior and evaluations of others who lie, two issues that are widely recognized as central to moral development.” In conclusion, they wrote, their study raises “important moral questions for parents about when, if ever, parental lying is justified.”
至今让我印象最深刻的谎言，来自我爸妈的——
1，我是从煤堆里捡来的
2，吃西瓜不小心吃下西瓜籽的话，将来肚脐里会长出大西瓜。
3，不要随便独自乱跑，不然大老虎会吃了你！
老美也学我们:$
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